5 Myths About Christian Dating

Last Updated on December 27, 2021 by Pastor Ikechukwu Chinedum

Let’s talk about 5 myths about Christian dating. Christian dating is one of the most debated topics. There are so many misconceptions about Christian dating and we will discuss them here.

5 Myths About Christian Dating

We Would Not Have Issue Because We Are Both Christians

One of the greatest myths about Christian dating is one of the partners thinks they would not have issues just because they are both Christians. The truth remains, you both are the first human before you became Christians. The nature of humans is so dynamic and it reflects in everything we do. There will always be a clash of interest between you two and guess what, nothing can stop it. Even if you two have matured to the level of speaking in the Holy Ghost.

Like every other two persons dating, the both of you are two different personalities brought up in different environments. You two are exposed to different things and your knowledge is quite different. It is hard for the two of you to agree on certain things and it is normal. Even pastors have issues when they get married, that is what the nature of humans is.

Don’t be surprised when you see your partner reacting negatively to certain things. Do not think your angry partner is possessed by an evil spirit when they flare up during a hot heated argument. It is bound to happen. Thinking it won’t happen is one of the myths that must be corrected.

The best thing you can do is try to understand yourself. Understand that your partner is not an alien, neither is she/he an angel. They have their level of tolerance as humans so don’t think they are doing too much when they disagree with you on certain issues. Instead, understand that as humans we have individual differences.

We Can’t Be Tempted

This is another myth that most young believers hold dearly when going into a relationship. The natural concept of dating is such that it allows numerous impure activities between two persons. Many people believe dating is an opportunity to have sex freely at any time.

However, most young Christians believe since they will be going out with a Christian like them they would not be tempted to defile the bed. This is a big fat lie. Those who have such belief in the past have fallen prey to the scheme of the devil. The enemy sure has a way of making people think such would not happen until it has happened.

One thing you must always remember is that being a Christian does not make you immune to the temptations of the devil. The devil will tempt you more because you are a believer. After all, he knows that you have more to lose if you fall into the temptation. Even after Christ has fasted for forty days and nights the enemy still tempted Jesus.

Meanwhile, at that time the power of the holy spirit is so enormous in the life of Jesus. But that could not stop the enemy from tempting Jesus. If Christ was tempted we will all face it. The best you two can do is not to subject yourself to the schemes of the devil. Try as much as you can not to be together in an isolated place. The enemy will deceive you into thinking such negative thoughts would not come to your mind but don’t give in. Try everything possible not to be alone with your partner in an isolated place, else you might fall victim to the scheme of the enemy.

I Can Change Him or Her

2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

I can change him, I can change her, this is the statement that has led many believers into the den of the enemy. The scripture was not mistaken when it stated that do not be equally yoked with an unbeliever. Righteousness and lawlessness have no business together.

May I state this, no man can change another man except God is ready to change the person. Do not be blinded by love to an extent that you can no longer identify when to flee and whom to flee from. You see a man that doesn’t believe that struggles with faith, a woman that likes drinking and clubbing but because you are deeply in love with them, you decide to go into a relationship with them with the belief that you can change them for Christ. If you are not careful, you will be the one to change and become like them.

Unless you receive a personal, clear, and direct instruction from God to go into such a relationship, brethren flee. Do not make the mistake that you can change anyone. You didn’t create the person, how can you possibly change that person. Instead, after you have broken that tiers you can pray to God and work for the salvation of their soul.

He/She is Perfect We Attend The Same Church

The fact that you attend the same church doesn’t make your partner a perfect perfect or right person. Many young Christians have fallen to this misconception. The fact that he or she is active in the church doesn’t make them the right ones for you. It is wise that you seek the face of God when it comes to choosing a partner.

There are so many Christian relationships that have hit the rock simply because they started dating because they attend the same Church. Attending the same church is not a yardstick to determine if someone is the right one. Seek the face of God instead.

He Attends A Church, She Attends A Church, They Are Faithful

Matthew 24:5 For many will come in My name, saying, ‘I am the Christ,’ and will deceive many.

This is almost the same mistake as thinking they are the right fit because you both attend the same church. The fact that they are a churchgoer doesn’t make them faithful. The scripture stated that many will come in my name and deceive so many. Do not be deceived, by their fruit you shall know them.

Do not be quick to give your consent to any relationship or dating until you have taken your time to study them. Don’t just assume that they are good just because you saw them on the road that leads to the Church. Do not be deceived by this myth. There are many Christians who are only churchgoers.