5 Things Every Christian Husband Must Do To Their Wives

Last Updated on December 27, 2021 by Pastor Ikechukwu Chinedum

It is easy to fall in love but staying in love is a tough act to follow. Regardless of how ready you think you are for marriage, I can authoritatively tell you that you are not prepared until you peddle into some of the challenges of marriage. The scripture instructed in the book of Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her. This is a command from God that husbands should love their wives just as Christ also loved the church. Also, the husbands must give themselves to their wives just as Christ gave himself to the church.

Whether you just tie the knot or you are about to walk a lady down the aisle, you must know that it takes a deliberate effort to keep a marriage. As the man, you are the head of the family. However, that doesn’t make you a dictator. You should be selfless, put yourself last in every situation. Women are to be cared for and showed love and affection. To maintain a healthy family, here are 5 things every Christian husband must do to their wives.

5 Things Every Christian Husband Must Do To Their Wives

Always Touch Her

Women are soft creatures. They crave love, attention, and care even outside the bedroom. You remember how you are always quick to hold her hands just before you two got married, try as much as possible to keep up with it. Though keeping up with something like this after marriage can be quite difficult. Especially when you start making babies, your attention will be divided, no doubt. Nevertheless, do not let it be obvious that many things have changed.

Do not feel reluctant to hold her hands when you walk outside. Love and attention is always a reassurance to woman. And women love to be reassured of your love and affection. No matter how busy you both are, women never stop craving love and affection from you. That’s why the scripture says Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her. You must love and give yourself to her.

Before you ask that woman to marry you, it is important to know that you are about to enter into a life commitment. You must know that you signing up to serve her for the rest of your life.

Never Stop Respecting Her

As you may recall, you valued her input when you were still courting. You would delay deciding until you hear from her because you value her input. Do not stop that when you finally settle down with her. Do not decide without consulting her. It is a sign of respect. She is your better half, not your slave. She deserved to be listened to, she is one of the decision-makers in that marriage.

So, when it comes to everything that concerns the marriage, do not decide in isolation. Also, you do not need to entirely understand her needs before you consider them. Remember she is a woman, her reasoning might be slightly different from yours. Because of that, her needs and concern might seem awkward to you. But that doesn’t mean they should not be considered. This is a sign of love and respect for her.

Always Bear Her Burden

Your wife is your better half. That’s why the scripture says Mark 10:8 and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. You and her are no longer two persons but one. You should carry her burden always. Her problem becomes yours the day you tie the knot with her. Her burden becomes yours to bear the day she walked down the aisle with you.

When she comes with her problem, be kind with your words even when she is at fault. Let her understand she is not alone in the struggle. She will always love you when she sees you as someone she can confide in. Marriage has its way of reducing every love, affection, and care that existed when dating. Life can sometimes get so busy that you can’t even take care of yourself let alone lookout for another person.

Regardless of how busy life gets with you, always show concern when she comes with her problem.

Understand and Always Speak Her Love Language

Love is an emotional connection triggered by some factors. These factors are called love language. Everyone, both men and women have a different love language. As a Christian husband, you must try as much as possible to understand your wife’s love language. Knowing this will help you stay at the top of every situation that arises in the marriage. When you understand her love language, do not stop speaking to her in that language.

If your wife feels loved and cherished when you give her gifts, you should not stop getting her gifts, especially when trying to calm her down. If her love language is taking her out on a date, you must not stop taking her out. It makes her feel loved and cherished.

Always Know When To Let Her Be

Even as a man, you understand that there are sometimes that all you crave is just to be alone. Sometimes you just want to be left alone as a man. This happens to women too. When she is going through a lot and it seems she is not getting a way out of it or you are in a heated argument with her, know when to let her be so you don’t escalate the situation.

Sometimes it is difficult for women to handle their emotions. They can become uncontrollable at times and flare up even to the person they love. As the husband, know when all she wants is just a space. Even when she is not ready to talk about her ordeal, let her be. She will finally open up when she’s got the strength to do that. You must know when to keep calm and walk away for a while.

Conclusion

Many Christian marriages would not have broken if only the husband try to understand his wife. The scripture says can two walk together unless they agree? It is difficult to agree when you don’t understand the other party. That explains why you must invest heavily into knowing your wife dearly and try as much as you can to always do these 5 things to keep your marriage solidified.