Last Updated on December 30, 2021 by Pastor Ikechukwu Chinedum
Before marriage comes dating and courting. This is the stage where the man and woman get to know one another well. During this stage, a woman can make her decision if the man she is going out with is the perfect person for her likewise the man. The road to marriage can be quite difficult and marriage itself is not filled with roses. That’s why as a single Christian lady, you must do all it takes to ensure you settle with the right man.
We have seen so many cases and videos online of how men kill their wives and vice versa. Getting married to the wrong person only brings the torment of hell closer to the victim. When going out with a man, try as much you can to study his behavioral pattern so you can identify if he is good or not. Meanwhile, we will help every single Christian lady reading from our blog by highlighting the five types of men they must avoid.
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This blog will be an eye-opener. Should you notice that you are in a relationship with a man that has one or two attributes from this list, please run for the hills. A broken relationship is better and less problematic than a failed marriage.
5 Types of Men Every Christian Single Lady Must Avoid
The Unbeliever
Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
The first type of man you must avoid is an unbeliever. If you are a regular reader of our blog you may have read about 5 myths of Christian dating. One of the points explained in the blog was that many Christians make the mistake of settling with an unbeliever with the hope that they can change them. The truth is, no man can change another man. And Bible already stated that do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness.
An unbeliever will not give you a problem in marriage but they will also hinder the manifestation of God’s promises over your life as they hinder you from doing the things of God. When you notice that the person you are going out with is struggling with faith or they are total unbelievers, it is better for you to flee than try to fix them. In the end, you might have yourself to be blamed.
Run From An Addict
Corinthians 6:12 I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything.”
Funnily being an addict doesn’t automatically make them an unbeliever. Numerous believers are struggling with one addiction or another. The addiction could be drugs, sex, porn, betting, and many more. Marriage with a man struggling with an addiction will make it look like you are married to two men in the same marriage because when the addiction comes, you will have to deal with it too.
Please run and do not look back when running from any man struggling with addiction. Do not let them toy with your feelings and emotions, run now that your legs are still intact. Do not wait until the time that it would be difficult to exit the relationship given the enormous investments you have dedicated to the relationship. Remember, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
Run From An Abuser
Psalms 11:5 The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, he hates with a passion.”
An abuser doesn’t necessarily mean someone that abuses you physically or sexually. It means anyone that doesn’t see your worth. A man that gives you low self-esteem. Run from such man, he will any place a value on you even in marriage.
An abuser will never be able to express the full extent of their love due to their negative behavior. Meanwhile, God made you and you are wonderfully and fearfully made. You deserve a full extent of love, appreciation, and care. Do not give any man a chance to reduce that standard. An abuser will reduce it.
You will never see greatness in yourself. And the moment you lose faith in yourself, you can’t even represent God anymore.
Flee From a Narcissist
Timothy 3:2-5 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.”
Marriage is all about two different persons coming together as one. It is not one priding himself more than the other. A narcissist is someone who loves and cares about himself more than he does to others. This type of person can be termed as being selfish and self-centered. You will notice this type of man when you are dating.
When you notice that he gives rapt attention to how he looks than the way you look, run, and don’t look back. He will do everything and anything for his selfish gains. He would not mind using you as bait to get whatever thing he so desires. The two shall become one. This means one is not greater than another. He should give you a reasonable amount of care and support as much as he would give himself.
Run From A Hot Tempered Man
Proverbs 22:24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered.”
One of the greatest qualities of a man is the ability to manage and control his anger. If you are dating a man that has an anger problem, run and don’t look back. This is because their temper is most likely to increase once you tie the knot with them. Such a person will abuse you verbally and physically and no one has the right to do that to another person.
Conclusively, there are so many marriages that would have been blissful if only the lady took the time to study the man. Do not rush things, don’t be overwhelmed by societal pressure. Let no one dictate your race. Run with God’s time. Take time to study the man, if you find any negative habit or behavior, flee.
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